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Carole Duff's avatar

Perusing the menu, I picked out three possibilities: either the soft chimichanga (chicken), the lunch-sized fajitas (chicken), or the tostadas - you guessed it, chicken. I wasn't that hungry, so I chose the entree that didn't come with rice and beans. "The tostadas, chicken," I said to the waitress. "Perfect," she replied. Perfect? What's perfect about chicken tostadas? Would beef have been perfect, too, or the chimichanga or the fajitas?

Children are schooled in perfection from a very early age: physical appearance (girls especially), grades and test scores, athletic or artist performance, job evaluations. And you know what? We always fall short and, if you're like me, tend to beat ourselves up about it. "I should have tried harder." Often we compare ourselves to others, only to discover there's always someone more attractive, smarter, and more accomplished in whatever we might do.

In The Way of Perfection, Teresa of Avila writes, "Let the truth be in your hearts, as it will be if you practice meditation, and you will see clearly what love we are bound to have for our neighbors." Perfection, a way of being. So, before we left the restaurant, I said to the waitress, "Thank you for your service, I enjoyed the tostadas very much." And that was the truth in my heart.

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Carol D Marsh's avatar

I have always disliked my hair. It's very fine, thin, and straight, though it was auburn (that, I liked) when I was in high school. I hated all I had to do to make it even semi-ok - let's not talk about perfection. It resisted the coaxings of hot roller and curling iron alike. I had to plaster it with hair spray to get it to maintain any semblance of style.

Adding insult to injury, it got even thinner as I approached peri-menopause. When I finally decided I needed a wig, there were already two balding spots that my doctor told me looked like alopecia. She said the hair would not grow back.

I've worn wigs since 2014, meaning eight years of good-hair days. Ah, perfection.

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