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Melissa Shatto's avatar

I have no clear self image. I know myself to be uninhibited but full of second guesses. I have a huge heart and can be extremely selfless but say ridiculously stupid things sometimes and can be extremely awkward and inappropriate. Over the years, I've often wished that I could send out an anonymous survey for folks to complete honestly which would indicate how I present to others. It doesn't worry me as much as I am dead curious to know. Despite all of my uncertainty, I have been referred to time and time again as “so confident”, which tickles me. It's an act, you see. I am definitely not good at public speaking or, by extension, acting. I get a facial tick in front of cameras and my voice is extremely warbly at a podium. I have, however, developed what I assume is an acting technique to get through situations where I am “in the spotlight.” I imagine I'm Juliette Binoche in Chocolat. The character Vianne is unapologetically but pleasantly direct and is not easily bullied by her adversaries, eventually providing them guidance to fulfilment and joy. The first day teaching, a job interview, first date – doing my best to portray her has gotten me through and evidently convinced audiences.

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Carole Duff's avatar

I’m sixteen and looking at myself in the bedroom mirror, studying my image. Who am I? I strike a pose. Am I pretty? I dance with the mirror and flip my long, mousey-brown hair. Will people like me? I smile. What do they see in me? Now decades later, I know most people weren’t looking, and I, captivated in self-centeredness, was mostly looking at my shallow self. Starring in my own video. An exhausting performance. When I look at my image in the mirror these days, it’s to see if my hair is combed. I smile to check for bits of food debris in my teeth. And before I leave the house, I stop by the full-length mirror. Yup, fully dressed. Funny thing is, when I quit worrying about my mirror image, I am able to see others much better.

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