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Carole Duff's avatar

Twenty-seven years ago, I was driving down 95 South from Dulles Airport toward Richmond, heading for Williamsburg and Busch Gardens with my children. Jessica was sixteen and David twelve. Virginia’s lush greenery lined the highway, and traffic swirled around us. Then something wondrous happened. All sound and images faded except for the trees and sky. I smelled and heard their colors, hues of green and blue. Time and space seemed suspended. A gentle breeze from an unknown source caressed my face and raised the hairs on my arms. I relaxed my hands on the steering wheel. An inaudible, deep voice boomed inside my head. This is home. This is home. Hearing that voice—the loudest I’d ever heard—I woke as from a reverie. Who? What? How? I asked. The reality of 95 South returned. I told Jessica and David about the voice, what it said, and my astonishment. This is home? We live in Texas; we’re on vacation. I don’t remember my children having any reaction, except maybe, “Oh, Mom...” Compared to Busch Garden’s Loch Ness Monster and Big Bad Wolf roller coasters, the voice I heard and the time lapse I’d experienced probably didn’t seem like a big deal. But it turned out to be a very big deal. Seven years later, I was living and working in Baltimore—and falling in love with a man from Virginia. Yesterday, we celebrated our seventeenth wedding anniversary. This is home. (Scene excerpted and adapted from my memoir Wisdom Builds Her House, releasing in early 2024)

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Melissa Shatto's avatar

We built our last family home when I was nine. The wall intercoms and the huge open floor plan seemed luxurious and there were ten acres to explore. In hindsight, it wasn't extraordinary, but it was nice and it was home. Mom was fastidious and always updating the décor to the height of suburban eighties fashion. Dad started his own award winning business. On occasion, others lived with us for a while. It was always welcoming. When I moved home to have my son, we lived in my old room until we began renovating the enormous basement to build an office on one side and an apartment on the other. We had already built a small “Tudor” cottage in the front yard for me to paint and teach art classes, which was going well, but the business had some hiccups that heavily impacted the family. Mom went to work in retail. I had good commissions but not the time or energy for DIY projects so the house started to deteriorate. Eventually it was under foreclosure and we were scrambling to decide what to salvage and rescue, as water was spraying out of pinhole leaks in the copper pipes along the ceiling in our disastrous, unfinished living space. It makes my heart ache to think that that is what my son recalls as home, and even more so to know that he still drives back to look at it and mourn, hoping to buy it back one day.

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